how to tell your partner you have an STI
by Francisco Ramirez, MPH - Co-Founder of OkaySo
Okay so, you have an STI and now you need to tell your partner.
If you're feeling nervous, that's super normal. Here are some tips for setting yourself up for this convo.
First: take some time to understand the STI you have. Is it curable or treatable? What can happen if it isn't treated? Having some information will help if your partner has questions.
Second: find a good time and place. Distractions and interruptions will make the conversation more difficult.
Third: help your partner understand that you need to have an important conversation so they can get in the right headspace.
Fourth: share your news as simply as you can. We have a tendency to talk a lot when we're nervous but that can send mixed messages. Keep it clear.
Fifth: once you've said it, stop talking. Let your partner absorb the news in silence. There will be plenty of time to ask questions.
Sixth: start talking about next steps including testing, treatment and protection.
If you think you might have an STI, need to get tested, need to have this convo, just had this convo, or more, reach out! Our experts are here.
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